Well it finally happened. Mr. J finally told the Ex that I was moving in.
I was beginning to worry that he would never do it, but I had to stay calm and trust that when he felt the moment was right, he would tell her.
And he did. On Tuesday.
He told her that the kids were aware, that he had told them a week ago but wanted to give them time to think about it before telling her.
So I asked him how she took the news.
And he said, “I had sent her a bunch of stuff about the kids which she responded to but didn’t say a word about it.”
So she is going to stew on it for a week or so. She’ll leave it just long enough that Mr. J will think that everything is going smoothly, and when -WHAM – out of the blue he will receive a message from her full of guilt (perhaps), sadness (definitely), anger (possibly) and other such nonsense.
This is her modus operandi when it comes to news she doesn’t want to hear. Even though it bears nothing on her life – her day-to-day life – for whatever reason my moving in with Mr. J will most certainly will affect her… and she definitely let him know it.
Well it shouldn’t. I keep saying it but she keeps forgetting – this is what she wanted. To not be with Mr. J anymore. She didn’t want to live with him, and so it shouldn’t matter that he’s found someone as fabulous as me… someone who does want to live with him.
Besides, she has her own Mr. J – so I wonder what he thinks of all this. Does she talk to him about this kind of stuff? I’m a little interested to find out.
I’m guessing once this weekend is behind her – the long weekend and back-to-school time – that she will have a response for Mr. J about my moving in.
I just hope that for once, she leaves the passive-aggressive comments out. “I’m happy for you” should be the only words she says.
Yeah, like that will happen.